The first sign of trouble came when the nurse told us that Juniper would have to go to the transition nursery.

My heart sank with worry.

I watched tears stream down Coley's face as she told Juniper goodbye and the Magnesium entered her veins. I struggled to cope with that, so I began to build a wall. Brick by brick, I would busily build that wall over the course of the coming weeks. They took Juniper, slowly and casually, away to the transition nursery. 

When I first visited her a few hours later, I picked up and old landline telephone and told the nurse I was Juniper's dad. She was the first person I would tell that to. I entered a room full of babies, who were - for all intensive purposes - fighting for their lives.

Juniper lie there connected to the machines.

The tiny pulse oximeter told the nurse about low oxygen saturation. They added some oxygen to help her breathe. I noticed my own breathing speed up. I worried Juniper would not make it, despite being told that she would be OK.

Life is just so fragile. She was just so small. 

The transition nursery cleared Juniper to come to the hospital room just seven hours later. We were all together as a family for the first time (minus their big brother and my best friend, our hound dog Townes).

Coley and I quickly became acquainted with the challenges of managing two newborns.We struggled to feed Juniper. She seemed frantic, as if the womb had been some dry desert to her. She re-fluxed badly. The nurses assured us that this was all "normal" infant behavior and that first time parents often expressed such concerns.

I felt sick.

The humid Georgia air brushed against my nose and throat. I wore a SARS mask to protect the girls from their father. I worried about how I would look in the photos, but thought about the benefits of not having to smile.

At night I felt exhausted. We sent the girls to the nursery and slept a few hours. 

On day two, the daunting challenge of keeping two infants alive began to cause me significant anxiety. My fear about the situation manifested itself into obsessive compulsive behaviors. I became obsessed with washing my hands. They cracked and itched.

I began to unravel.

Reality had hit me. I felt that I had traded in my freedom. I put lotion on my hands and then washed them again. I sneezed into my shirt and later did "skin to skin" with Laurel. I then became convinced I had infected her. I asked the nurses to take her temperature obsessively. 

Medical professionals and family members flooded our room. They talked over one another and we struggled to their hear advice and congratulatory remarks. The room was filled with a plethora of information, but I retained very little. The hospital provided some printed materials that I put into a neat pile and moved around the room.

The flowers in the room rotted and smelled like death. The security system failed and an armed guard was placed outside of our room. I felt the pressure of guarding something valuable and vulnerable. We stayed in the hospital for just 4 days and then they sent us home with around 10 pounds of human flesh and 10 bags of formula, blankets and diapers.

I played "My Girl" by The Temptations several times on the way home to keep myself from panicking. 

the splice

On February 16, 2017, I sat in a small office chair and watched everyone go through their morning routines. Some discussed the news from the night before, others commented on sports scores. Finishing up their morning coffee, they prepared to cut into my wife and take out some of her organs. I sat there nervously sweating in anticipation. I was about to be the father of twin girls. I was nervous, but I was ready.

My wife, Coley, and I had done everything right. We had a house, a dog and a yard. We had a nursery decorated in little woodland creatures. We had accumulated a library of Children's books (I even wrote a few). We even had a fucking mini van.

We were ready. Or at least we thought we were.

I remember noticing how nonchalant everyone around me was acting at the hospital that day, as I sat there waiting for the most significant event of my life. They called me in when it was time to begin the C-Section. I sat down beside Coley and readied my camera like I was waiting for some endangered creature to come out of its habitat.

Coley is the strongest person I know. The procedure didn't seem to phase her.

Laurel and Juniper, were born at 8:30 and 8:31, respectively. I refer to this moment as the splice. There are few times in one's life where life completely changes in the span of one second. A moment when you are forever intertwined with something else, from that moment forward. The birth of your child/children is one of those times.

I caught some pictures of them with their asses in the air and told Coley I'd share those with their first boyfriends to embarrass them.

Once they found their way into the atmosphere and most of the vernix was polished off, the techs let me over to see them. They were beautiful. All of their parts and pieces were there. Honestly, they looked like tiny little old men that got in a fist fight. But to me, they were beautiful. I noticed that Juniper didn't cry much and that worried me, but otherwise everything seemed to be in its right place.